7 Things You Should Never Apologize For
publication date: Oct 26, 2009
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author/source: Megan Jenifer
By Megan Jenifer
 When I was younger, I used to have a habit of saying, “I’m sorry” after doing or saying something that I thought may have been non-appealing to the recipient. It didn’t matter what it was. It could be a joke that I told that didn’t garner an appropriate response of laughter from my perspective. It could be after doing something as simple as a sneeze. However, after growing up a bit, I realized that I don’t have to be sorry for EVERYTHING. I should only apologize when an apology is necessary. In certain instances, I’ve also learned that there are times where you may do or say something that may be a bit uncomfortable for another person. You shouldn’t have to apologize for saying those things. You may wish to apologize for the pain that saying these things may have caused but the actual act and reason should not be one of remorse. In this article, you’ll find seven instances where you should be willing to take action and not apologize for it later. 1) Being honest People often say, “the truth hurts,” or “you can’t handle the truth,” or “you don’t really want to hear the truth.” The fact of the matter is, everyone does want the truth; however, it’s no longer in your control once the truth is out how the other person will handle hearing that information. What you should be mindful of is the timing of your truth delivery. There’s definitely a timing to truth. Sometimes, you may need to delay what you share for a more appropriate time. You may not wish to tell your best friend right away that you are thinking about moving to France when they’re mourning the loss of a loved one. But when you do choose to tell them at the best moment, there’s nothing to be remorseful about. Be honest. 2) Loving yourself In my last post, I brought to the forefront how important it is to love yourself before you can honestly and truthfully love another. When you pour love into yourself, many people mistake that for selfishness or even overconfidence. Take inventory of the type of signal that you’re emitting when you are “loving yourself.” If you are in a genuine place of love, then that signal should not get misinterpreted, but if it is clouded with a little bit of separation, meaning you’re trying to make yourself feel better at the expense of someone else deliberately, then that’s not really a love vibration, is it? So, if you’re getting back from someone that you’re being selfish, really check the authenticity of your self-love. However, if you’re certain that you are giving yourself the very best, then that’s nothing to be sorry for. 3) Crying when you need to Even if you’re embarrassed to cry, crying is a release of pinned up emotion that everyone was built with the capacity to do. It’s fine and quite cleansing to let out tears when they well up in your eyes. It doesn’t make you any less strong or less mature to cry. It’s a natural response to overwhelming emotion (whether happy or sad), and it’s all OK. Crying also moves you to a more upstream vibration if you’re vibrating at the lower end of the emotional scale, because it helps you to move beyond what could have been holding you back. 4) Taking a break I used to be guilty of this one a lot. Life can get a bit challenging and complex when a lot of things are happening simultaneously. Many times we’re expected to just push through and “suck it up.” If we do this too much, our body will shut us down in the most seemingly inopportune time. It’s more healthy and beneficial to literally stop every once in a while to breathe, to let your hair down, to relax, to rejuvenate. It’s necessary. It’s a part of our body’s natural rhythm. When we disrupt this, we can break down our bodies’ defenses and become more susceptible to sickness. Take the load off. You deserve it every once in a while especially when you know you’re moving in the right direction. 5) Being alone Being by yourself is not a bad thing. Taking some alone time to be quiet and at peace with the Oneness that IS and around you is a treat! It’s a gift from the Source to be able to connect and communicate directly with whom and from where all your help comes from. It gives you the space to tap more into your intuitive gifts and really hear what it is that’s calling you. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, relish in the opportunity to spoil and cherish yourself…to meet only your demands…to listen only to your requests… and to tend only to your needs. Take the time to pamper and really love yourself. You’ll be more equipped to share later. 6) Change This is the ONE thing in life that is consistent. Change always occurs and we as humans need to be sensitive and flexible to change. It may be a bit uncomfortable to impose abrupt changes in another person’s life when you’re involved in the change, but often times change is very necessary for survival, peace of mind, help, strength, hope, and faith. When you make a decision, the time that you make it, you should do so with certainty and have your reasons why. But don’t be afraid to change your mind. You have the right to do so especially if you learned something after your decision that could save you lots of heart ache in the long-run. Listen to your gut and trust your intuition. If change is coming, welcome it. 7) Saying “no” This is a gigantic one. Saying “no” sets boundaries, and why should we have to apologize for protecting ourselves? Sure, it may hurt your significant other’s feelings to say “no” to a request that they earnestly may want a “yes” to. If the “yes” causes you to compromise integrity, your spirit, your trust, your values, your truth or anything that means a whole lot more to you, then saying “no” shouldn’t be something that you regret later. When you say “no”, really mean it and have your reason for why you said it. Make sure it has weight. These are 7 instances that have become most apparent in my life. What are the other things you feel you shouldn’t have to apologize for? About the Author A violin teacher by trade and an author on the Law of Attraction by choice, Megan Jenifer, “The Millionaire Violinist,” operates the blog TheLawofAttractionStation.com, which is dedicated to exploring the Universal Law of Attraction. She also operates another blog, BestInfiniteIncomePlanOnlineBlog.com that gives a wealth of quality content for how to succeed with your own internet business. 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